Episode 52: Running Back to Yourself: How J.T. Chestnut Rediscovered Himself and Found Community
In this episode, Ray chats with J.T. Chestnut, a proud sober gay Black man, long-distance runner, and inarguably Whitney Houston’s #1 fan. A California transplant, J.T. takes us through his deeply personal journey of breaking free from the cycle of addiction, a path that began with a brave decision to embrace his authentic self at age 16 in North Carolina. As he opens up about the struggles and triumphs of sobriety, J.T. reflects on the turning point when his mother urged him to get help and how that moment led him to an AA meeting in 2020. He shares how more than three years later sobriety has transformed his life, strengthened his bonds with loved ones, and deepened his love for running.
This episode is a testament to the power of community, self-discovery, and resilience. Tune in to hear J.T.’s inspiring story of breaking cycles, setting boundaries, and running toward a brighter, healthier future.
J.T.’s Toolkit:
Break the cycle
Seek help
Be your authentic self
Set and maintain boundaries
Find productive outlets
Celebrate milestones
Break the Cycle by Seeking Help
J.T.'s story shows the importance of asking for help when you need it. He shared how joining AA was a pivotal moment that helped him break free from a destructive cycle of substance abuse. In his most desperate moment, J.T. reached out to a close friend who he knew was also going through a sobriety journey. They helped him take the first steps to a healthier life.
When he reached out for help, he found a community that provided him with the support and guidance he needed. Whether it’s from family, friends, or a support group, reaching out can be the first step in creating lasting change in your life.
Embrace Authenticity
J.T.’s decision to live openly as a gay Black man was a significant turning point in his life. By embracing his true identity, he found a deeper sense of peace and fulfillment. Authenticity isn’t just about being honest with others; it’s about being honest with yourself. He is unapologetically himself and only allows those who accept his true self into his inner circle. J.T.’s journey illustrates that when you embrace who you are, regardless of societal expectations or fear of judgment, you open the door to true self-care and empowerment.
Set Boundaries for a Healthier Life
J.T. highlighted the importance of setting boundaries, particularly with those who may not understand or support your path. For J.T., this meant distancing himself from people and situations that could trigger a relapse. He learned to protect his peace by prioritizing his well-being, even if it meant making difficult decisions about relationships. Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining a healthier and more balanced life.
Find Your Outlet
Running became J.T.’s solace. It became a positive outlet for his energy and emotions, providing him with a sense of clarity and peace to manage stress and stay grounded. To date, he’s completed 19 marathons and counting! Whether it’s physical activity, a creative pursuit, or another hobby, finding an outlet that brings you joy can be transformative. It’s about channeling your energy into something that helps you grow and thrive.
Celebrate Milestones
Recovery is a journey, and every milestone matters. J.T.’s story is a reminder that every step forward in recovery is worth celebrating. Whether it’s a year of sobriety or a personal achievement, acknowledging these milestones can provide motivation to keep going. J.T. talked about the significance of celebrating his progress, no matter how small, as it reinforced his commitment to staying on track. Recognizing your achievements is crucial in maintaining momentum on your journey.
J.T.’s details
Instagram: @jtchestnut